Pre Marriage Questions that are important to know the answers to before you tie the knot:
Getting Married:
Why are you getting married? A simple question that requires a lot of thought.
Are you sure that the person you are engaged to is the one you want to spend the rest of your life with?
Are you in a hurry to get married? Is getting married before a certain age important to you?
Are you excited about getting married, or do you spend your days trying not to think about it?
Are your friends and relatives more excited about your wedding than you are?
Are you feeling pressured into marriage, either by your partner or your parents?
Are you getting married because you want to or because you think that you should?
Children
Do you and your partner plan on having any children? If yes; how many?
Have you discussed when you would like to have children? Right away? 5 years from now? 10?
Are you both aware how much children cost? Are you able to afford it?
How do you and your partner plan to care for a child? Will one of you stay home? Will your child/children attend daycare?
Will your child/children attend a private school? How do you plan to pay for it?
Long term goals
What are they? Where do you see yourselves 30 or 40 years from now?
What about retirement? What are your plans and goals for your golden years together?
Money:
spending, saving, investing. Who will look after it?
Who makes it if you decide to have children?
Religion:
Which holidays will you celebrate?
If you are from different religions, how will you make it work? It can be done, but how will the two of you make it work for you?
Chores:
Who does what, and if you can't come to an agreement; can you afford to pay to have someone else do the cleaning?
In-laws:
How much time will be spent with each set of in-laws?
How will holidays will be divided?
Do your parents approve or disapprove of your partner?
Whom would you rather disappoint, your parents or your partner?
How attached are you to your parents? What does your partner think of this?
How would you handle problems with your in-laws? Would you speak with them, or talk to your partner first?
Who's parents will you live near, if either set?
Do either of you behave differently around your in-laws? If yes, what causes you to do so?
Sex:
Lay it all out. What you expect from one another, feelings about, you must be able to discuss all of the issues. If you can't, you'll need to find out why, and we would suggest that you do this before the wedding.
How will you spend your time together? Days off, weekends, holidays.
Friends:
How much time do you each plan to spend with your own friends? With mutual friends?
What do your friends think of your partner? Does it matter to you if they like him or her?
Pets:
Will you get any pets once married? How will you divide up the chores associated with a pet (walking the dog, feeding the cat, etc.)
If you already have a pet, will it live with both of you once you are married?
Former Lovers:
How will you deal with former partners, both yours and your current partners? Will you keep in contact with them, keep photos of them in your home?
